She's a Homewrecker or Another Dark Corner of the Internet

I read with real dismay about the online "burn" site exposing women (with pictures and everything) who get involved with married men. On this website slighted women are encouraged to tell their stories, upload photos and provide the full names and the state in which the "homewrecker" lives. Take a look if you dare, but I warn you it aint pretty.

www.shesahomewrecker.com

Here is their cute little tag:



These look like funky shoes that I might even buy if you could walk on the devil heels

Shouldn't it be more like this:

Now this is a wrecked home

I know that "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" (by playwright William Congreve who lived  between 1670-1729 and who also wrote ironically enough, "you must not kiss and tell") but Do you mind? Has it come to this? This is very uncool and not helpful to anybody!

While I'm sure that having a cheating spouse is extremely painful, and I feel for people who are suffering, grieving their loss, and working their way through a marital betrayal cause it has got to be heart wrenching, placing the blame on the party who doesn't even live in the home and even (some) absolving the hapless spouse, or just going very public with this very private "affair" doesn't make things better or even make anybody feel better at the end of the day. Seriously, it takes two to tango and the person who has the most responsibility is the cheating spouse themselves not the other party, (hey that's just my opinion, man- ya the Big Lebowski again). As the author of the article Emma Woolley correctly says: "Men aren't helpless when faced with temptation, they're adults who decide how to conduct themselves."  I also think that, sometimes, not always, but sometimes the "innocent" spouse needs to look harder at her role in all of it. I mean if a person is straying maybe, just maybe there is a reason.  Or maybe the guy is just a scum bag but I'm thinking that sometimes there is some blame all round.

Also I get that venting to family and friends and throwing around cuss words and descriptions like skank, tramp and whore is fun, (and even cathartic) but posting this stuff, c'mon-this is not the way to go- it diminishes the postor (oh wait- they get to remain anonymous) more than the postee. No, it just aint right.

Apparently the guys are going to get their turn cause there is going to be a He's a Homewrecker website too but I'm guessing it's not gonna get the same hits. Just guessing.